Defiance

Defiant means you are challenging; non-compliant; confrontational; openly and boldly challenging authority.

You have 5 choices (from behavior advisor) when you don't want to follow a direction. Which one of the 5 selections below do you think you are the most powerful?
 * 1) Deny or swallow your feelings and do what is asked.
 * 2) Refuse in a rude manner.
 * 3) Withdraw or run away.
 * 4) Use tricks or manipulation to avoid doing what is being asked
 * 5) Make your feelings known in an respectful manner

Have you ever thought any of the following (adapted from an article, A Day In The Mind Of Your Defiant Child) :


 * 1) **School sucks. I hate it. It's not fair I have to go to school**! If you have said this stop and think if you are realistically preparing yourself for when you are an adult. What kind of job do you think you will have if you don't go to school? Did you know that if you think like this it justifies or permits you to do things that are risky or unhealthy. School is **your** responsibility.
 * 2) **The teacher is a jerk**. Why do you think you are a victim? Did you know that if you think you are a victim that you probably think you don't have to do anything you don't want to. Victims blame other people. There even may have been times in the past where you stuck to your story long enough and you were not held accountable. Well, that won't happen today. You are responsible for your actions.
 * 3) **You don't want me to be late for my next class, do you?** Have you done different things to get around rules? If so, so why do you think that the person you are talking to will not make you follow the rules? You think the rules and rights of others are obstacles for you to get what you want. We will ask you to face the consequence of your behavior.
 * 4) **This song is cool. How come I can't listen to it and you play other stupid songs?** Do you take pride in unhealthy, negative things? Did you know that if you take pride in negativity your self esteem and identity comes from negativity